Moms Talk: Explaining Gay Marriage to Your Children

As gay marriage is popping up more and more in the news, our moms wondered when is the best time to talk to your kids about it — and how?

Just the other day the Cleveland Plain Dealer posted a story about gay marriage in Ohio. The newspaper said the number of same-sex couples spiked in this state.

In fact, it grew by more than 50 percent between 2000 and 2010.

It got our Moms Council moms' wheels a'turning: If the topic of same-sex couples and gay marriage is so prevalent in the news right now (we're looking at you, New York), is this something that you need to explain to your kids? 

We agreed this may be a touchy subject, so some of you may ask "What's there to 'explain?'" And then others may be on the other end of the spectrum. With that said, we welcome any and all unprejudiced and intelligent insight into this Moms Talk. 

Jonathan Coulter August 03, 2011 at 01:54 PM
I'm not a parent yet, so please take this opinion for what it's worth... There are a number of touchy subjects that present themselves in life. This shouldn't be one of them. If two people love each other, they get married. To me, this is pretty simple. I don't let religious beliefs get in the way, because I don't really have any. In my opinion, religion is where this conversation gets tricky.
JillinJackson August 03, 2011 at 01:59 PM
Well said, Laura Z. and shadow_man. My brother is gay and he and his partner have been together for over 30 years. They really don't want to be "married" in the traditional sense, but would like a legal civil union. They would like to be able to get insurance together, have the right to visit one another in the hospital (if God forbid that would happen), file joint taxes....in other words all the legal minutae that "married" couples are entitled to. Laura, my granddaughter is almost 12 and she has never asked about her Uncles. One day she asked my brother where he slept. He pointed to his side and said "right there". Then she asked where Uncle Dick slept and he pointed to the other side and said "right there". Her reply: "Oh". She's never asked anymore questions, but I think that day will probably come. I'm going to check out the book you recommend. Shadow_man: my heart goes out to the poster of that story. I can't begin to imagine the pain he is feeling.
Ashley Villers August 03, 2011 at 04:38 PM
I am not a parent, but wouldn't it be ignorant to NOT at least explain that homosexuality does exist? To ignore it completely would lead to misunderstanding and potentially bigotry & hatred. Even if your religious views are at odds with homosexuality it your responsibility as a parent to teach kindness & understanding. I hear so many of my students using the word "gay" as an insult & in my mind, this is just as inappropriate as calling someone "retarded" or any other derogatory term. But so many children aren't taught these things at home or at school. Perhaps, right now, awareness is a more important step for some families, rather than acceptance. I would like to believe that everyone can agree that kindness, understanding, generosity and love is something that should be equal for everyone.
Lisa Lynch-Frank August 03, 2011 at 06:36 PM
Wow, all of you have presented such thought-provoking comments. I don't think this is a topic to ignore and I think kids have a right to understand and learn more on the topic of same sex-marriages.
jamie smith August 31, 2012 at 05:37 PM
This comment is pending approval and won't be displayed until it is approved. I'm frantically researching gay, lesbian, transgender articles for some parenting tips. I'm not gay but I am trying to explain "gay" to my 3 year old after this happened... http://www.sippycupcocktails.com/2012/08/sophie-has-two-dads.html uughhhh don't feel like dealing with this now


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